What you put out in public will be taken exactly as it's taken - you have no control over it. If you didn't convey the message you meant to convey, it's not always the recipient's fault. It may be that you didn't clearly communicate the message you meant to.

That said, people read and observe the world through the unique lens of their own past experience; that's out of your control. If I clearly say "A" and you hear the pain of writing out the entire alphabet 100 times on the blackboard as punishment for talking in class, back in first grade, that's not MY fault. But it's not my place to argue with your experience or indignantly insist, "that's not what I meant," or to offer therapy for your past trauma. We each have our roles to play, and ought to stick to them.

Writer and Kid-at-Heart, often found at https://jahangiri.us. Subscribe to my (free!) Newsletter: https://hollyjahangiri.substack.com

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